Friday, September 17, 2010

Love; Pros and Cons

Hye bloggers. Welcome back.

Firstly congratulations to all my friends who are going to or had gone to their allocated universities abroad. Most destinations are Egypt with typically taking Medics or Dentistry. I'm so proud of you all, but at the same time I'm feeling quite sad to be far away from you all my friends. Hopefully we'll meet ever again someday, Insya-Allah.

Anyway, today's post is fancy with a quite interesting topic for adolescent like us; love. To blaze the trail I'm not describing on what is love, (Coz I'm 110 percent certain that you all knew it better than me) instead of that I'm just going to be very straightforward; Is it really necessary to have one or just never mind? I know most of you are well experienced on this, maybe you've already have one or still looking for one but mind me, you gotta believe me that once you're in, it is going to be either one of these; a cute and cuddly life or a big problem. Hows that?

By love, you could neglect your life, your studies and honor. Sometimes even it could go even worser. But it really depends on how you manage your feeling and what type of person your sweetheart are.

"Women impure are for men impure, and men impure are for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness and a provision is honourable."                                                      
                                                                                                                                         An Nur (24:26)

If she/he leads you for the better, then its fine. Cute and cuddly. But if you mislead your life along with her/him, then thats a truly big problem. You should be very aware and careful while finding your match, really do. But if you think you've found one and she/he looks perfect to you now, don't hesitate to break up if she/he turns the way around on the other time in the future. What I want say is you shouldn't pledge allegience to your match and swore will stick with her/him forever, because maybe somewhen in the future he'll change and show her/his true color. Then if that, he/she will ruin your life along. My advice; don't believe in first sight love. Make sure you've known your match thoroughly before decide to dwell around with her/him.

To love someone is to put someone in your heart. So when you're in love, that literally means that he's/she's ruling your heart; you won't let go whatever happen. Then there comes the problem.

"There's a flesh in a human body. If the flesh is pure, then so goes the whole body. If the flesh is impure, so goes the whole body. Acknowledge it, it's the heart."
                                                                                          Hadits Rowahu Bukhari wa Muslim

The heart is the totalitarian of our body. It decides what we think, what we do and even what we are. So as love stays there, we must always make sure that the love is totally pure. But on the first place, always prior the faith and put it on top of our heart. Make sure the faith will never get affected by love, but love will always affected by faith. Faith is our love to Allah and Rasulullah, so it is non-tolerable to be put aside. Must always beyond others. So my other advice : Never put love first in heart, and don't let our faith and love share a room in our heart. Our faith in Allah, Rasulullah and Islam must comes first by hook or crook. Non-negotiable. 

But friends, as a student, does it really necessary to have one? Okay, personally, I don't think so. Why? Simple. Because it is not supportive for us as  a student. In any how why must we have one? To satisfy our needs and feeling as a teenager, and isn't it just that? Yes it is! Just that. As a growing adolescent, yes I'm not gonna deny the fact that we did really feel to have someone to love and to be loved by someone, somewhen. Thats nature. But its not really helps a lot in contributing something to improve our studies or even raise our grades in exams, so I can say, its not worth it.

But on the other side, I think as long as it doesn't break the rules I bolded above, well I think maybe its fine.
So you decides, ok =)


Anonymous said...

where did u got hadith in english? did u translate it?

everything you define me said...

erm, yeah, kinda.. =)